I know, it sounds counterintuitive. Most parenting instincts are to protect, intervene, smooth the path. But a growing body of evidence suggests that some of the best things you can do for your child involve stepping back and letting them stumble, or even fail, on purpose, while the consequences at this stage of their life are still small.

As a therapist specializing in therapy for women and women's mental health, I work with perfectionism and overachieving anxiety every day—not just in my practice, but in my own life.